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PostSubject: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 7:29 am

As a youth pastor, sometimes I get called in to help counsel with a family if one of the kids is in trouble.  Sunday, however, I was cast into a much larger situation than I have ever had to deal with (outside of online debates).  One of my church families came to me and confessed that he and his wife were divorcing most likely because of her infidelity.  I've been asked to counsel with the daughter who is in my youth group.  Dad was going to be there, but now the mom is going to be there as well.  I would imagine that she wants to insure that I don't try to turn her daughter against her.

While I do want to focus on the needs of the teen daughter, I also want to be able to discuss the situation with just the parents.  I might be the last line of defense before this family gets ripped apart.  The unfaithful wife has already cut ties with our senior pastor and most of the church folk.  So, I think it is of utmost importance for me to try to show that God still loves her, there will be consequences for her actions, and that the only way to really have peace with the Lord is to obey His commands to repent.

I feel so unprepared for this.  I trained in Bible college to preach/teach the word, but I did not take any counseling classes.  So, this is a HUGE step with potential for so many grave mistakes.  If I say the wrong thing at all, this marriage will end.  I need Jesus to give me the words that start this family on a road to healing.  I need the Holy Spirit's wisdom to flow from my mouth into the hearts of these people tonight.  Please pray and pray harder than you ever have for this situation today.  The Lord will be faithful to our prayers if we are definitely praying for His will to be done here.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 8:42 am

I pray that it would not be your words, but God's words today. Very tough situation pal.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 9:05 am

A tough situation that needs lots of prayers and the guiding of the Holy Sprit to give you words of wisdom, word from God.
This situation is in my prayers.
Trust God that when you need wisdom and what to do in a rough situation like this is He shows you His way and what to do.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 9:34 am

Praying God will give you wisdom & insight (and courage).

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 9:58 am

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If I say the wrong thing at all, this marriage will end.
What you say or do not say will not decide what happens with this marriage.  The participants (husband and wife) will decide on what happens with this marriage.  You can show them God's never-ending love for both of them.  But in the end, the choice is theirs and theirs alone.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 9:59 am

Praying here.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 2:10 pm

Praying for much wisdom, gentleness and boldness my friend.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 3:22 pm

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alldatndensum wrote:
If I say the wrong thing at all, this marriage will end.
What you say or do not say will not decide what happens with this marriage.  The participants (husband and wife) will decide on what happens with this marriage.  You can show them God's never-ending love for both of them.  But in the end, the choice is theirs and theirs alone.
+1. Frankly, I think you'll do better than someone that has professional training. I'm sure you've heard the famous saying, "God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called." Out of context perhaps but I still think Matt 10:17-20 would apply in situations like this. Rely on God to give you the words to speak in love, not condemnation. She may well not have any intention of repenting at this point (or ever). He may not have any intention on forgiving at this point. It's pretty simple to point out what God expects though.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 12, 2013 6:02 pm

He wants to forgive and to heal the marriage.  She--not so much.  But, as long as she actually comes to the meeting tonight, there is hope.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Wed Nov 13, 2013 9:03 am

I hope she came to the meeting.
It's hard but what happened can be forgiven.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Wed Nov 13, 2013 6:01 pm

She did, and I said everything that I felt that the Lord was laying on my heart to this family.  Whether or not they make the decision to stay together now is between them and God.  I will be glad to assist with counseling if they decide to reconcile.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Wed Nov 13, 2013 9:31 pm

You did what God had called you to do. Now it's in God's hands and the hands of that couple. Continue to be of support to that family especially the daughter.  I pray that this marriage stays together, but when there is adultery involved it makes it tough. It is a Biblical reason for divorce, however for the sake of their daughter I pray they reconcile
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Thu Nov 14, 2013 9:19 am

It's good to pray they reconcile.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Thu Nov 14, 2013 2:54 pm

rockerVu2 wrote:
It's good to pray they reconcile.
my pastor says not to take sides other than to take the side of the marriage
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Fri Nov 15, 2013 7:19 am

I cannot take a side and will not.  I will advise either of them by God's word alone at this point.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Fri Nov 15, 2013 3:47 pm

I'm praying for the restoration of that marriage.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Fri Nov 15, 2013 4:43 pm

That's what I do too.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Fri Nov 15, 2013 5:04 pm

Things are degrading for this couple.  They are now trying to drag their mutual friends into the middle of this and take sides.  It's so childish.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Fri Nov 15, 2013 7:49 pm

Unfortunately in situations like these it's the kids who suffer the most
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Sat Nov 16, 2013 11:15 pm

It's those kids I work with. Sad.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Mon Nov 18, 2013 9:18 am

My prayer will be that God shows them to stop this.
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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Mon Nov 18, 2013 11:56 am

rockerVu2 wrote:
My prayer will be that God shows them to stop this.
Me too.

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PostSubject: Re: Deperately need prayer today, folks!   Tue Nov 19, 2013 4:52 pm

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