First of all I apologize for not being around much but as of late I have been going through some things, somethings that frankly I dont have the strength to deal with anymore. A few weeks ago my wife has told me that she doesn't want to be married to me anymore. That she says that within 5 years she doesnt see us married, I told her that if things didnt change that I wasnt gonna be around for 1 let alone 5 (thats when her eldest turns 18) Anyways we the next few days we discussed it and agreed we would try to work it out and see what happens, she feels she doesnt deserve me, that I am really good to her and her boys but realizes she treats me like complete crap. Well... I then went to CT for a few days as part of my birthday present, something inside me dreaded coming back, I came home Tuesday night and its like we never had that conversation she's not said more than 2 words to me all week didnt ask bout my trip , etc.... Its like I dont even exist right now, I get the vibe that she's just totally given up and I cant make it work by myself. So theres a good chance that there is a divorce coming because I cannot live like this, Im depressed, Im tired, emotionally drained. I dont mean depressed like gloomy I mean deep dark depression. Ive prayed as alot of others have on this situation. I dont know what to do, my first instinct is to move back to CT where I have family and friends and a awesome Pastor. If I do I intend to enter counciling, my head isnt on straight anymore and I just feel so out of whack.

So please pray for me, that he would give me the grace and or strength to handle this, and that I would hear his will and have the courage and strength to do his will.

Really sorry to hear about this Addy. Having been married for more than 20 years the Mrs and I have had some rough patches (and I almost left once). I will be praying for you and your wife, I really hope you both can keep it together.

Thanks I covet any and all prayers

We just celebrated 4 years last month, even then it was in a rough patch, I hope we can keep it together but I feel like its been me who does all the work and ive told her this. I do love her very much but I cannot stay in a situation that will slowly kill me on the inside

Maybe the two of you need to enter counseling together. Does your church offer marriage & family counseling? If they do, I would highly recommend that. If not, it might be time to do The Love Dare or one of Gary Smalley's marriage enrichment programs.

We've been married for 22 years, and it hasn't always been fun. I don't expect it to, either, as my wife has to live with me! I moved out once ten years ago (long story there) and we just basically had to start from scratch when we decided to get back together. It took a few years before I felt like I was able to return to ministering to kids.

Keep your chin up, man, and listen to whatever the Lord tells you.

I've suggested counciling because Im more than willing to jump into that, but it takes 2 to make it work and her reply was "Why I dont need counciling Its not going to change my mind"

We almost split a few years ago, but we worked through that, At times I suspect someone else is in the picture by the way she acts and the changes then I feel bad for thinking that and just dont know.... I had a sense of dread when I was leaving CT ( i was just up there for a few days to visit family and friends) and this was what I came home to, that and my work tools being stolen out of my car, but thats a whole different ballgame

Praying too.

I am so sorry to read this Addy.
Yep I know sometimes a marriage is not what you expect it was.
I think every married couple have good and bad times.
The good times are no problem, but the bad times.
God will show you His way.
You have to ask Him what to do.

Addy, know that when you ask God for help, to know what to do He certainly will answer you and help you.
Ask Him for what to do.

Yvonne its so funny (not in a ha ha way) that you say that, because today I took a long car drive where I just poured my heart out to God asking for a sign on what to do and to give me the strength and courage to his will I asked that he would reveal his will in a way that would leave me no doubt. Well I get home and my wife and I started talking and while its sad we're getting divorced our lives are going different directions we want differant things, and when we decided on that I felt nothing but peace. Yeah it hurts that she is no longer in love with me and there isnt another person she wants to be with. but I have alot in front of me as I plan to return to CT, In the end thats the best Ill need my family to get through this If i were to stay in TN as much as I like it here I would be miserable and it wouldnt be condusive to healing.

It sucks but I think this is for the best

Addy, I see this as guiding from the Holy Spirit.
I think Addy that God will be sad when your marriage will end in a divorce.
Maybe you and your wife don't know how to go on, but you know all things are possible in God.

Im not the one who wants the divorce, and God isn't the only one who is sad, I literally have a broken heart I cant think straight let alone plan relocating to save my life one minute Im fine and the next im full of rage, to make it work it has to be both not just one. If I am stuck in TN and cannot move back to where I have family and people who love me then I am gonna end up rotting on the inside because I have nothing here in TN. My wife was TN to me.

Shes already taken her ring off, I cant bring myself to do it.

Very sad to hear this Addy. I will praying that the Lord will carry you through this incredibly painful time.

Really sorry to hear that, Addy. I don't have any words of advice or help, as I'm not sure what to say. But I will pray for you in this very intense situation.



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Thank you all, I just have to trust the Lord to provide i just want to be where I am wanted again

Addy, my prayers are with you.
It makes me sad to read this.

My wife and I had been good friends since I was 19 which makes it 17 years